In the UK- PT22 - anyone for a glayvar?

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Hopefully just Angels rather than angry Angels Huddy

So, I read the above as - she was rude to me, so I left in mid sentence - she tugged on your rope and you delivered right back..reactive rather than responsive - and the difference is really important.

I think Roist's question in spot on. Her approach may not change, but yours can...and a change in you could change the dynamic..

Now, you're looking for a monetary or practical lever to make her feel the consequences of being unpleasant...I won't top up her phone or take her to an appointment?

That's how I read this anyway...

I'm sorry you're feeling low - and of course it's understandable. These situations are by no means easy. But I think a big part of the problem is that your life is still largely about her and what she is doing, not doing, may be thinking, planning etc.

I don't see that you doing a great deal to change yourself or your life following her departure, and I do think that's the place to focus rather than on her. This is something that has been posted for a while, and you do seem a little stuck in this area. I wonder why that is and how we could help?

The thing is - what we focus on, grows - have a think about that in relation to your current situation.