Just stopped by to check on you. I'm sorry to read about all this! I'm also sick and can't seem to get out of it, so not much time and energy to get on the Internet in the evening...
Looks like we will go through this together! My h told me a few days ago that he filed. I must say I was relieved... I'll post more on my thread not to hijack yours but just wanted to let you know that I'm with you on this!
Regarding contact and dinner. For myself, I know that I want very limited contact with h. It's sad, as I am in touch and regular contact with my ex fiancé (that I never married) but I don't think I can and want to be with my h. He just went too far. I know that mostly it was the MLC talking (and acting) but still. And what he did/does to the kids I can just never forgive him. But one thing I know I will always keep, as long as everyone wants to continue with it, is the birthday dinners of the kids. I will always invite him to join.
Don't try to analyse much what is wrong with her, did she cry and why. You have a lot on your plate and you really need to start thinking about yourself. It's already taking toll on your health. You don't deserve it.
I hope everything will go smoothly for you and I'm happy that you are able to take more time for yourself - sports, books - whatever can take your mind off all this.
Stay strong! Once all this is over we will celebrate together :-).
I know it's tough when the family is breaking. I won't pretend it's all that easy for me. But I came to realise that sometimes it's not up to us and then we just need to let go and move on. And I do hope that we will see some positives down the road.
