No kicking or I told you so from me. In fact I say stop being so hard on yourself.

However have you thought about what you will change about this dynamic?

Best wishes.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together