I would disagree. This is where you feel more comfortable of what they have identified. Newcomers are more confused and in the initial state. Plenty more questions and reactions. I have seen people solve their marriage on this thread. See Newcomers OP is usually already involved. It is the first wave hence the name newcomers.
Now what I am thinking is what to do different as Michele suggests. That is what to do when/if I get back to up.
Me: 43, W: 43 M: 16, T: 18 D - 7, D - 7 ILUB: 26 August 2014 Still living together