Hi Huddy , firstly stop beating yourself up. You love the women and your natural instinct is to care for her and help her.
I harp on about the DB process because ive been where you are. The vets on here have seen it all and we struggle to accept that the process applies to our sitch because our WAS is different ( or so we think ). Right now your W has zero fear of losing you. She may or may not care either way in the long term but right now she has no fear because you make it clear that you are option B.
Again, i think most on here understand where your mindset is but we also understand it has to change , for any hope of an R with W BUT much more importantly for Huddy.
I still get very sad texts from.EXW but to be honest i dont really pay them much attention and never answer them. I still give her a small amount of cash most months but i do it with zero expectations and for my reasons. I dont consider how EXW views it because her view on it doesnt matter to me.
I wasnt encouraging you to date but i have and it did make me feel better about myself and i dont lack self confidence to start with !!!! Its a tricky business and ive had bunny boilers and simply incredible ladies that i thoroughly enjoyed every second with them.
For.me moving on meant deciding tbat im too good for EXW , i deserve better than who she has become and ive met ladies that do deserve me ( lol , poor them )
Again , dont beat yourself up but maybe learn that DBings favorite ' fake it until you make it ' is very true.
Just my thoughts Huddy , you are a nice guy and thats not helping you right now.
