A stronger me for whatever the future holds

[PacLove]

This same thing applies to me. Its hard to comprehend how i was being controlling when some of the things are actually good for a family. She actually said one time that i was too involved and too intense as a dad. So, i'm being punished for being a too involved dad who was passionate about his family. That's a tough one for me to justify.

I like the conversation. Good points from all involved!!

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I think it all boils down to the approach and how we "work" together going forward. One of the things my IC said is we never sat down and talked about R&R's - funny as that's something I emphasize doing in my job with my staff. So each of us "assumed" that the other was doing something when weren't. I know going forward if/as we re-engage this will be a necessary discussion and probably weekly a check-in on how things are going and who's doing what...

One thing I forgot on the controlling side is that I was definitely guilty of snooping and wanting to know what she was up to, calling/texting more than usual - but this really only came out in the last 2 years when I started getting suspicious about the A.