Batchitcrazy! I love it! Yes, that is an apt description.
I am in the same boat as you were HaWho. I never believed what I understood about MLC until I came here and started doing a lot of reading. While my beliefs have changed about it, I find myself questioning whether it applies to my H. There are many times when he sounds so rational, thoughtful, and confident. It throws me because when I see what other MLCers are doing, I think, well, he's not doing this, that, or the other thing, so maybe it's not MLC.
This morning he made another comment about how by the time S is old enough to be playing sports and working out he (H) will probably be in the grave. The preoccupation with aging makes me want to roll my eyes. Get over it already. Lol! I am going to start documenting these remarks here so I can remind myself this IS MLC.
This last week I have doubled up my efforts to detach. I am looking at the things he does that triggers me into wanting to tear his head off. As I isolate them, I am working on figuring out alternative ways to respond in my mind. So far I haven't come up with a lot. However, on the outside, I think I am making progress. I don't respond to him. At all. Nothing. Nada. Zip.
And I think it is starting to affect him because this last week he has really stepped up his efforts. Every day it's some kind of passive aggressive remark or action. Every day, I turn the other cheek and ignore it. I have taken to just not acknowledging it.
