Your wisdom is so far beyond mine...thank you for sharing it with me and helping me!
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As for how you see it...and the justifying comments you are making about how it will "go for the kids college", geez Jeep, it almost sounds as if you don't think you deserve it, hmmm. Why is that?
Is it because you are a man, and you fear societal judgements against getting what the law says b/c it implies...what?? Is there a part you played in the demise of the marriage that you think should decrease the support or retirement amount
You know, I'm not sure why I come across as that. I just didn't want to come across as greedy or whatever.
Sure, I played a part in the demise - there isn't a perfect person out there. But none of my actions were divorce-worthy, even though I'm sure you'd get a different story from her.
And you're right, I could have gotten more money out of it - what I'm getting now will more than pay for a nice car every year if I wanted it.
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Given what you saw from/in her last week, at the moment, she's unreachable and she's not understandable.
I understand that and fully get it. She isn't the person I knew. Unreachable and not understandable are very well deserved terms in this case.
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Can you go back to DB basics and GAL? Because what you really seek is detachment, and I cannot think of a way to detach without GAL, which also means meeting new people.
Not all people who know your heartbreak. People who are fresh to you
Detachment. I'm working on that one and thought I had it licked. Guess not. Yes, I do need new people in my life. Yes indeed.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
