I forgot to mention I was pleased to read H is more and more involved and active with sons. I hope that over time that will continue and become consistent. Yes do praise him for this, but don't hurt yourself tripping over something as you sprint over to validate.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together