I think you may benefit from the abandonment book that Mach1 suggested for me. It not only explains all of these cycles we go through, but also gives really concrete, tactical ways of addressing them.
Sounds like a solid recommendation to me.
M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6 11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing 1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break 2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing 2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process