A stronger me for whatever the future holds

[Woke_Up]

Gordie

That's some great thoughts there. I must admit, when I did the assessment of me from W's point of view, I out in controlling - based on that she has said she won't be controlled, therefore must feel that I am trying to control.

From my viewpoint, I find her controlling, so therefore I now know I have the difficult task of examining myself closely, to understand how my actions and words come across as controlling. I know there are some obvious ones - 'You can't do that, You can't think that, you must, you need to' - Fixing the language used. Again, focus on one's self, fix one's self. I have a tendency to focus on the spouses issues and how they make me feel.

But yes, many of the things you list resonate. SAHM, feeling isolated, lonely, trapped, never had a career, child at early age, all quite typical of many, many situations.