Wow. You said coming up on 3 years and I did a triple take. You're right. It is for both of us.
In some ways I feel like a lifetime has passed. In other ways it feels like it just happened. For me it seems like the divorce has still defined my world in so many ways. Who I am. What my life is like. My view of the world. The daily sense that things are permanently different than they used to be. Yet I have rebuilt my life too.
It's almost like I was secretly waiting for things to return to some sense of normality all of this time. It never did. But things are good now. In fact, if things changed from how they are today it would be tough to let go of this new normal. I know change is inevitable, that is why I savor each day as they come.
I don't think I'll ever understand divorce. Once something is replaced you can never have something that is irreplaceable. Even after this time I can't understand how that makes sense.
But I can understand that it isn't in my control, and I can understand how to focus on what it around me. That I can do. And that I have done. Things are good and I'm glad you are doing just as well.
Sorry to hear about your recent break up. You're a braver man than I for dipping your toe back in the water. I'm sure it's a reminder of what has been lost. But it's also a reminder of what may lie ahead. And again, the biggest reminder is what lies right now. Go out and play some pool. Spend a few hours working on shots off the end rail with some Led Zepplin playing. Always works for me...
Take care and thanks for the update.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
