Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #3

[Gordie]

Ok, I have some journaling to do, but will get to that later... how do I try and build an emotional connection, as per DB coach, if I am not pursuing?

Woke_up, I think you have the best answers to these questions. I suggest two approaches and choose the one that seems better for you and your situation. 1. What is her LL? If you know her primary/secondary LL and she is open to you providing that to her...do that. If she's not open to that right now... 2. How would you build an emotional connection with a female acquaintance? You wouldn't aggressively pursue them by calling, texting, giving gifts and trying to have intimate conversations everyday, but you'd take advantage of the times when you did bump into each other and try to make it special when you did...such as a sincere hello and it's great to see you and you look really nice today...and holding eye contact...and really listening to her and building trust and small, incremental steps at intimacy...and remember what she said and bringing it up again the next time you saw her...I was thinking about what you said about XYZ...and oh, I thought of you this afternoon when I saw ABC...