To be honest, I think that ex considered me rabid dog status when he left. Our pattern was, I would get deeply hurt or upset with something he did and respond with some pretty inappropriate sentiments. His leaving was his way to set boundaries.
He would tell me that my words were cruel and I would say his actions were crueler. I am by no means proud at how I communicated my hurt. He would also tell me that I was patient with everyone else but him. I think I just held him to much higher standards and expectations.
Anyway, from the rabid dog stand point I agree that you can't respond to that. It just allows for an unhealthy cycle. I hope for every ones sake that she is able to let go of her own bitterness. It was certainly hard seeing my behaviors in someone else.
