Ya, its crazy that I hang onto all this. I have wedding pictures, rings, text messages, family photos, clothes, etc, etc. I keep telling myself to throw all this stuff away, in order to truly "let go" of her, but I won't either. Even though its a painful reminder, I still have trouble getting rid of it.
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Hey, I'm on Tacoma world if you want to join up.
Not entirely sure what that is exactly. I googled it and it just gives me Toyota websites lol.
M: 37 W: 36 T: 16 M: 11 D2: 8,3 PA: 2015 WAW: 2016 W Filed: 2017 2/07/2017 W officially dating OM2
Ugh. I feel myself spiraling now. And those damn what-ifs...our own gateway into hell. Why couldn't she have had a normal childhood that was absent all the abuse?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I had to remove my wife from my G-Chat IM list. I couldn't stand seeing if she was online. I may just remove G-Chat, since she was really the only person i IM'd with.
M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6 11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing 1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break 2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing 2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
Ya, its crazy that I hang onto all this. I have wedding pictures, rings, text messages, family photos, clothes, etc, etc. I keep telling myself to throw all this stuff away, in order to truly "let go" of her, but I won't either. Even though its a painful reminder, I still have trouble getting rid of it.
I put all that stuff into a big plastic bin and sealed it. I can't look at that stuff anymore. But, I won't ever get rid of it. Ever.
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Not entirely sure what that is exactly. I googled it and it just gives me Toyota websites lol.
It is a forum. A few have joined me over there. Not as restrictive. I'm spacemanspiff if you want to join.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I had to remove my wife from my G-Chat IM list. I couldn't stand seeing if she was online. I may just remove G-Chat, since she was really the only person i IM'd with.
Yeah, I know the feeling. I don't use the gmail anymore, though. I'll probably keep her on.
The same tacomaworld invite goes to you, too, my friend.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Why couldn't she have had a normal childhood that was absent all the abuse?
Unless my wife kept something from me and our therapist, i'm pretty darn sure my wife had a normal childhood. Nothing too horrible as far as I know, and she's still super close with her family. Although, i now see that her family does have some moral issues that seem to accept adultery (not her brother though).
So, a normal childhood maybe not have prevented everything.
M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6 11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing 1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break 2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing 2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
A friend of mine just told me that my W changed her name on her FB and removed my last name. She kept all her pics of us on there, but changed her name. I also don't think I'll ever get rid of the stuff I have from her. After my W told me of her A she was texting me constantly telling me how much she loved me, how nice it was to hold me and make love to me, etc, etc. I just want to forward those to her and ask her where the h*** did that woman go??
She had a bad upbringing as, but I agree with KevinIn...it probably wouldn't have mattered and the outcome would most likely be the same.
Sorry you are having a bad one going down memory lane Jeep. Picturing your wedding day and all. Unfortunately, I'm sure there are going to be more days like today so just hang in there. Just [censored] a** that they don't miss that life anymore!
M: 37 W: 36 T: 16 M: 11 D2: 8,3 PA: 2015 WAW: 2016 W Filed: 2017 2/07/2017 W officially dating OM2
Yesterday was absolutely brutal and made the others look like a day in church. The hateful, mean things that came out of her mouth were like nothing I've ever seen out of her. Sigh.
So sorry for your pain, Jeep.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Believe NOTHING they say and only half of what they do. This isn't the person you married, she has been invaded by a pod person who can't see the truth if it sat on their face. You know your worth and she can't be the one to tear that down. You are strong and amazing, and she is an idiot at present.
As far as childhoods go, I had an absolutely horrific one. I would NEVER cheat so she can't go and blame her past on her present. I decided to use my painful childhood as a way to NOT parent horribly. Instead of putting the needs of my pick-of-the-month-manbaby I place priorities on my children's well being and happiness. I refuse to let my past define me, instead I rise above. Use this pain and rise above.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
