Husband hasn't been home in 2 days and before that it was only about an hour to shower and change before he was off to work again. He rarely gets home before me and kids are in bed and can easily go a week without ever seeing or speaking to us. He's not having an affair, just has always been a workaholic. It's gotten much worse the last few years. I'm a big fan of the DB techniques, but feel very resentful. It's difficult to be nice to someone I feel like has abandoned his family. The 3 year old constantly asks if daddy is coming home today. It's heartbreaking. We were in counseling for about 6 months, but then he got "too busy" to come. He'd started not showing up until the last 15 minutes or so anyway so it had become useless. There is always an excuse as to why he must work so much. He's been on Adderall for the last couple years and this has definitely caused the work hours to increase. I try to just live my life, but it does get extremely lonely. Kids are S13,S11,D3.
Hello Boddeo,
I'm so sorry that you are feeling abandoned.
How has being on Adderall increased his work hours? Is he working towards a promotion/bonus? At the risk of mind reading, does he feel like this schedule is ok since it is what he needs to do to provide for his family (his perspective)?
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