Sometimes I wish I could just slap the sh*t out of her and say look at what you are doing to them.
I know we have all had that feeling...the bad part is that that would make absolutely no difference to them. It would be just one more nail in the D coffin.
Like most have said on here...one day at a time.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
Sometimes I wish I could just slap the sh*t out of her and say look at what you are doing to them.
I know we have all had that feeling...the bad part is that that would make absolutely no difference to them. It would be just one more nail in the D coffin.
Like most have said on here...one day at a time.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
My kids havent really felt the pain yet, and im dreading when that comes. Its all going to hit when their mom moves out and they are staying a few days a week in a new place (wife and i are birdnesting right now - taking turns at the house so the kids never leave).
M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6 11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing 1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break 2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing 2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
Yep, the effect on the kids ... that's what makes me wish for the world to just end. Just turn out the lights.
The stuff happening to me... I feel like I can survive it.
Are they sad, angry, or numb? Are they acting out? How are you helping them? ForGump...you are surviving AND helping your kids. You have our unconditional support.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
On my end they are sad and at times act out. I wonder how much parental alienation is going on...
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
Parental alienation is when one parent tries to alienate the kids or turn them against the other parent. For example, one parent will talk about how bad the other is or whatever - the goal is to turn the kids against the other parent. It may start out small with little, innocent comments and adds up over time. Or maybe it starts big-time out of the gate.
I know my ex told my son that he needs to spend more time with her than me. And that's what he has told me - I don't ask what they talk about because he won't tell me. I just do the best I can and show them that they are loved and wanted.
Parental alienation is a terrible thing to do with a kid. It may also be in the form of telling the kids one of the parents did bad things to end the marriage. You get the drift.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Are they sad, angry, or numb? Are they acting out? How are you helping them?
The older one (a young teen) is doing ok, at least on the outside. The younger one is periodically sad and confused, and wishes for the family to stay together. He's also the one who wishes we can all live in the same house forever, so for him stability and permanency is very important.
They're not really acting out. At least as far as I can see.
I can't say I'm doing anything special to help them out. Just being steady. When asked about divorce, tell them the plain truth but stay general. I've always been present and involved, so I haven't changed all that much.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
