I'm worried in the back of my mind that I'm trying to get my W back so much that when/if that happens then all the anger and resentment will rise up.
Exactly. Thats why getting all the details isnt advised, because it only builds more resentment. Anyway, maybe it's time to focus on your issues rather than on getting her back?
Originally Posted By: brizz
I brought up going to a counselor as a first step and she said she just didn't know if she had the motivation and needed to work on her own issues right now with her IC. She basically said she now has a whole ton of new issues because of the damage she's done to herself by letting OM use and manipulate her.
I think this says it all. She isnt ready to be in a relationship with you again. So let her go and do what she needs to do to heal.
