Thank you, Vanilla. I understood half of your words but all of your message.
My focus is on getting us to a point of R. She texted me later in the evening regarding the book: "I'm considering getting it but I just need some space right now." I didn't respond and I don't intend to.
My plan now is for her to actually feel my absence. She literally went from my bed in December to sharing a bed with OM the next night on her work trip. She's only now having to deal with being "alone" and it's taking its toll. She admitted as much and even said I'd had time to gain that kind of stability.
So I'm not going to be available to her. If she temperature checks via text, I'm not responding. If she says she wants to come by to see the dog, I'll ask what time and say I'll leave the door unlocked but I won't be there. I think she is at a point where she needs to see me moving on and not think she has me as a back up option but rather choose to commit to me and working on a new MR.
