Same Sitch. New Approach. Motivated. Feeling Good.

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I think it would be seen as manipulative if I put them up while she's away

Agreed - do things for you - not for her. I was very much in the early days trying to do subtle things wondering how it may impact her, and TBH I still do at times or at least think of it. We wouldn't be good Husbands if we didn't think about how our actions impact our Wives. But in these cases we need to be careful about how they can be seen as manipulative.

If you feel you want to have pictures - put them up at work where she won't know if they are there or not.

As painful as it is - shes in the drivers seat right now around any forward momentum you have with your R - all you can do is move on as if you couldn't care less and GAL.

I disagree about the marriage photos at work. You can't be reminded every second of your working day what you had, you need to crush it at work and it will lift your selfesteem, and the last thing you need is this constant reminder of the things past. Your M is gone, your R is gone, anything that might happen with your W is a new R and a new M.