WH came back. Piecing. Almost at 2 year mark.

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Hi Blu,

I understand the difficulty of being able to forgive and move passed the resentment. Forgiveness doesn't come naturally to us.

Do you love your H? Do you think if you can get beyond resentment and offer your forgiveness that you can get to a happy place in your M/R? Of course it isn't always going to be happy, but you get the idea.

This is one of my favorite quotes about forgiveness: To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

It is interesting how we can become a prisoner to resentment and how it is like an emotional cancer. Additionally, when we focus on the things that feed that emotion, it is what manifest in our hearts.

It reminds me of this Cherokee Indian Legend:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

In my sitch, my W focused on the negatives. So much so that she even turned some of the positives into negatives. Today she doesn't understand why. I believe that when people become so unhappy and filled with resentment, the happy times become unclear. That's why we see so many WAS are history revisionist.

Blu, which wolf are you feeding?