Those phases has been described by Jim Conway and rewritten by Heart blessings who posted also on that site.
Here the link:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2484776

I wil post on your thread later on, not today, I have a child with food poisoning right now.

Me 52+ WH 57+
Married 20 +
Piecing since 2016 (ready to give up...)