Your husband is most probably into the phase of Depression/withdrawal of the MLC, they are entwined. He is starting to reflect on his past actions and how they impacted you and the kids, that's a tough period for them. Now it's a time for him to understand what led him to those acts, it might come to him all at once or one at a time.
Don't expect him to talk to you during that phase about what's going through his mind and if you try to push him, you won't get any answers and he might get "mad", shame/remorse/guilt are starting to hit him very hard. Another phase to get through, ...
... those waves of resentment will go down and you will notice you can have a few days in a row without any, ... ...
He needs to get through that phase by himself, that's excellent you prescribed him some AD, it might help him to get through it faster. My husband stayed in that phase for about 6 months, he is now in the stage 1 of acceptance, his crazy MLC personality is definitively gone. ...
skyhigh, can you elaborate on the "phases" that you are talking about? Where did you get this info? Or is this only in your experience with your H?
None of this applies to my H since we started piecing. I have not seen any definitive phases or stages. Or perhaps I have overlooked things? He came back remorseful and regretful, and while he was afraid it would never work, he said he would do everything to try. I would love to find more info on what you are referring to.
Sometimes we want to find similarities in our sitches, but perhaps that is what we want to see, and I often wonder if there are as many differences as there are similarities? I have no idea. That's why it would be nice to have more threads on piecing :-)
I know I should feel grateful, but at times I just feel resentful this ever happened. I don't think I could do this if he wasn't sorry :-(
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
