Chris, relax, you are working yourself into a frenzy. Your W will come out of it when it's time for her. You cannot do anything for her, but sure as hell you can [censored] things up. I do not know if you can see, but you are teetering on a knife's edge here. You are exhausting yourself looking for the silver bullet and delving into despair when you can't seem to find one. And worst of all you are putting your own growing on hold. And if you don't slap yourself sill and come around, that is going to be your undoing. It seems to me that you got it into your head that you have to be this superman, superhusband, superdad. Well you cannot fix it all. You cannot fix your wife, you cannot fix your marriage. Your wife has to be willing to step up to the plate. Right now, she's about 22. Right now you can't even say she's a good mom. Am I right, or am I right. And you are pissed. Pissed at her for being a teenager again and pissed at yourself, because you can't make things right. I know you made a promise to yourself that you are going to make things right and that you are going to get your W back even if it kills you. You should step away from the hot mess that is your W right now. I know you are worried what she is up to in FL, but you really have to set it all aside as you really have no influence or say over it.
Get your ass in gear and start living life and putting yourself and the children first for change.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Reinhold Niebuhr
