My best friend's wife is an IC. I have made a point to never ask for any advice, but tonight I asked him if I could break that rule because I really wanted to know what she had to say.
She advised one of two things. Either no reply at all, or some legal mumbo jumbo telling her based on our decree she had to desist this behavior. She told me to absolutely not engage. That is my mom's feeling as well.
I've already said everything I have to say. The brainstorms in my last post I've already told her at various times in the past. The only thing I could even say is to defend myself against her accusations, and those are so outrageous they don't deserve a defense.
I am still kicking this around, but non-responding seems to be a reasonable candidate move for me at this moment.
I think you got really good advise that stopped you from replying and validating, because I think that could have been potentially very problematic. I think you should run this by your L, because I have seen this exact play many, many times before. I am willing to bet quite a bit that this is the first step in an attempt to get full custody. Whatever you do, do not validate!
The key is that she has to pay taxes. She's revealing it all in her message.
1) She needs money.
2) You're a bad father and a hidden drug addict so she should have full custody = more child support.
I think you should talk to your L and find the proper wording for refuting these allegations. If you let them stand unchallenged, she could attempt to construe that as agreement. Maybe even have your L send her a sharp reply.
On the tax issue: WH and I are going to have our accountant run the numbers both ways (we can choose whether to file joint or separately for 2016) and then decide what is best for the both of us.
WH will most likely get a refund regardless, I will most likely have to pay because I didn't think I would have to withold taxes while married. If we get back more by filing joint, he will get the same as if he filed alone, and we will split the rest. It's a win-win.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
