Try Not to Think Too Far Ahead

[Sotto]

Hi Kyh, good to hear from you and it sounds as though the last couple of weeks have been rough. I'm sorry and I can remember that pain of things moving a step closer - and yes there is also some relief mixed in...

I think the 'friends' question is a more difficult one. For me, actually being divorced did change things. Prior to that, XH was pretty dim anyway and I didn't initiate contact. You may want to have a think about what would work for you in the longer term and move towards that level of contact. But I guess for me, I didn't really let go of the need to be in touch until after divorce..

Of course, there is always a need to coparent constructively in the best interests of the kids, but whether that extends to dinner invites is up to you. XH and me did have XHXW1 over to dinner a number of times and she and I are still on friendly terms - but it took he and she a number of years to get to the point where they would happily have dinner together...

Hope this helps anyway