She has to hate you because she believes you are the source of her unhappiness and by hating you she is able to justify her actions. However, just keep in mind that no matter how she acts towards you that it isn't about you....its all about her, or so I'm told.
So I've been told, too. Not sure where any of it came from. That was just crazy. That behavior was way out from left field. Was one of the most painful things I've gone through.
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Again, I know those words will not bring you any comfort because I am sure a part of you still sees her as the woman you once knew and loved. This is what is so troubling to many of us. We wonder how our "ghost" don't linger in their minds and how they are able to become this new person and forget their past with us so easily. Like we never existed. Its so hard to come to the realization that the person you once loved is now just another stranger. Hang in there my friend. One day, when you least expect it, someone will come along and give you everything you deserve.
You know, you're right. I guess I will always see her as that woman I loved. Honestly, I don't think we are a ghost in their minds...however, I do think we linger as either a "painful" reminder of a mistake (in their mind) that we were, or its a ghost filled with malice. Who knows.
The sad thing is that when our exes reach the point of wanting a divorce, they are done and aren't coming back. Its an unwanted reality check for most of us who walk blindly on hope.
I just never, never expected her to behave in that manner. It was nothing unlike I have ever seen her do in the time I've known her. Sigh.
I'm not sure I'll ever be that open to anyone again. She did a number on my trust. Sigh.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
