OM's W texted me this morning and told me her H had texted my W to tell her to stop talking to his W. My W called him an ahole and said she hopes he can't sleep at night. So at least it sounds like the affair is completely over.
OM's W remembered some other details from her phone call with my W last Friday. She said they'd had sex at least a dozen times. OM still insists it was 3-4. He also still denied they had sex while my W was on her work trip there. He's just a lying piece of garbage.
My W apparently said they shared a bed the first 2 nights she was there and slept together the final night. That's especially hurtful since it was her final day there that I'd reached out to her during the day and ended up sharing with her an emotional letter I'd written. That was around 6pm. She didn't respond and when I prompted her to after 9pm, she answered about 30 minutes later "I can't". So that really hurts.
So last night my W was talking about being open to reading some marriage rebuilding books and told me to let her know if I recommended anything. I texted her this morning the name of a book (How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair) I said I'd like her to read. She responded "I don't like being told what to do".
I'm really not built for this hot/cold back and forth stuff. I don't know where it comes from. Her still being angry at me? Guilt so she's angry at herself? Maybe she is talking to her negative friend or mom and they steer her in the other direction? It just seems like she will be normal then next exchange she's bitter again.
We had talked about her maybe coming over this week for dinner. If she asks about it I don't know how I should respond. I'd like to tell her I can't keep doing this and she needs to commit to something one way or the other. I wish she was in "anything it takes" mode and gave me something to work with.
