I hear ya brother and I know how you feel. After all my WW has done to me I would probably still try to save my M. Words can't describe the pain of loosing a S and in many ways it is worse than a death of a loved one. This has also been the toughest thing for me to deal with as well and will continue to be considering they will always be a part of our lives. I always imagined growing old together with my W and I'm sure you felt the same way. Now, its scary to imagine the future and all its uncertainties, but just know that D is still not the end. Just keep being the good father that you are and bettering yourself and maybe someday your roads will cross once again. Good luck today.
M: 37 W: 36 T: 16 M: 11 D2: 8,3 PA: 2015 WAW: 2016 W Filed: 2017 2/07/2017 W officially dating OM2
Yesterday was absolutely brutal and made the others look like a day in church. The hateful, mean things that came out of her mouth were like nothing I've ever seen out of her. Sigh.
It's almost as if she truly hated me. Truly. Definitely not the person I knew for the past 11 years. Ugh.
And to think, that was just mediation. My lawyer (and the mediator too) felt that she would have lost it if we had to go in court. She thought I was going to roll over and just let her have everything. Everything came out in my favor but for some reason I didn't go after everything I was entitled too. Oh well, I did enough.
The trade off today was, well,terrible. The kids didn't want to go to her...and her temper was coming out. I think she's close to the brink...
None of this is worth it, my friends. This was the lowest thing I've experienced, ever. The change from the last time I saw her at last trade off to the hatred in her eyes was unbelievable. My lawyer says I dodged a bullet by getting away from that crazy family. Maybe so.
Don't expect miracles, my friends. Protect yourself first because they will be something you don't know. And prepare yourself for life without them, because rarley, if ever, do they come back.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
So sorry to hear that, Jeep. It's scary how easily the woman you always knew becomes someone completely different and hates you. It hurts but on some level may be better so that it's easier to accept you'll be better off.
Thank y'all. I didn't do much at all. Just a lot of stuff around the house. Didn't feel like going out, even though I had ample opportunities. But sis hit the gym extra hard and feeling the good type of soreness.
If there ever was any lingering doubts, Friday shut that down quick. Oh well. Onward and upward.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I'm sorry for everything you've been going through, Jeep.
There's no magic button to push to help you stop loving the person you chose to spend your life with even if they've treated you poorly. There's no set time frame for which you need to move past it. You will in your own time. When you're ready.
I hope for better days ahead for all of us.
M:41 H:43 T:26yrs M:19 yrs S:15 D1:14 D2:9 Living together but separated
I hear ya brother and I know how you feel. After all my WW has done to me I would probably still try to save my M. Words can't describe the pain of loosing a S and in many ways it is worse than a death of a loved one. This has also been the toughest thing for me to deal with as well and will continue to be considering they will always be a part of our lives. I always imagined growing old together with my W and I'm sure you felt the same way. Now, its scary to imagine the future and all its uncertainties, but just know that D is still not the end. Just keep being the good father that you are and bettering yourself and maybe someday your roads will cross once again. Good luck today.
Sal,
I have read thousands of words on this forum. For some reason, what you said above really struck a chord with me. Very well said, sir. It encapsulates so many possibilities, in such a short paragraph.
The part about this being worse than a death rings true. I have seen it written many times, that divorce is worse than death, because it never really ends. Death is final. Divorce lingers forever. It is like a disease that you transmit to your children and grandchildren. Who the hell would knowingly and willfully ever transmit such a horrific disease to the very people that they love the most?
At the end of the day, divorce is only paper. It is not truly over until YOU say it is over.
M-42 W-40 S-12 D-10 Together-13 years Married-10 years Separated-6/2016 ILYBINILWY-7/2016 EA-4/2016 (best guess) PA-7/2016 (best guess)
Yesterday was absolutely brutal and made the others look like a day in church. The hateful, mean things that came out of her mouth were like nothing I've ever seen out of her.
Hey Jeep,
Really sorry to hear it was so visceral.
Have you heard about cognitive dissonance? Not that it matters anymore, but its basically when the WS reinvent themselves and their values to justify what they're doing. My WH is doing it all the time. Apparently it's all my fault he's a serial cheat and ran off with another woman. Sounds like your WW has done the same thing. She's re-writing history to justify what she's doing and part of the revision of history is to make you out to be the devil. Hence the hatred she's displaying. She believes it and she has to because otherwise she wouldn't be able to do what she's doing.
She's lying to everyone including herself. If you believe in God, just sit back. She can't lie to Him.
At the end of the day, divorce is only paper. It is not truly over until YOU say it is over.
True. However, sometimes that ghost lingers even though many exorcisms have been attempted.
Love the tag name...the Matrix is one of all-time favorite movie series.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
