WAW had an affair - hurt and confused

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I doubt its guilt, more likely shame. Projected onto you.

Fog?

Entitlement and waywardness more like it. An A is a choice, there are others. This is one scummy choice. Knickers don't just fall off. It takes planning to have an A.

This is WW, OM is just a tool who happened to be there.

You caught her, there were boundaries and consequences. She doesn't like it and is projecting that shame on you. It's shame for being caught, not for the act itself. Otherwise there would be atonement

I see no indication of true remorse. Just blame.

I read you are open to forgive her. There are no signs she is remorseful at all or wants change, wants all in. Just thwarted and angry.

You know your sitch though.

If you want R then what is your boundary on it?

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