Well, I just got myself a 2x4, I guess. I dug through Facebook chat between me and my wife. I found some random, very playful, sweet chat, from 2012, and sent her a screenshot of it.

M: 33, W: 30 @BD
M 7, T 10
BD: Early Dec
W left: Late Dec
W got stuff: Late Jan
W sent S papers: Mid Feb
OM cnfrmd: Late Feb

Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.