Same Sitch. New Approach. Motivated. Feeling Good.

[Chris73]

Hi Sandi2. Thanks for the response.

From the very first time that I read your posts (jeez like 4 months ago now) there was no doubt in my mind that you are sincere in your efforts to help, support, and share your knowledge with the rest of us on this board. A lot of what you have advised me to do has been helpful and I still employ those strategies today.

But please understand that I evaluate the advice that I glean from ALL the resources around me. This board being one but also the DB books, DB phone coaching, other reference materials, my therapist, the close friends that I've confided in, the reverend at my church, and most importantly my own heart.

"The Great Sandi2 Experiment" didn't fail, it just wasn't suited for me. Perhaps I was interpreting it wrong. Perhaps there's only a subtle difference between the things I'm doing now and the things I was trying to do when I was posting to that thread. All I know is, until the day when I decided to drop all the problems and try to reconnect with my W as a friend, I was miserable, angry, resentful, and full of fear. Clearly this is not the outcome any of us are looking for.

Bottom line Sandi2 is that you HAVE helped me a great deal. I still refer to the 37 rules for guidance and I still read your responses on other folks' threads to get your perspective. Thank you for your tireless efforts to help this community.