Had I been a great husband, and she did that, or had she been a poor wife, and then cheated on me, then I might not forgive. But since I hadn't been a great husband, and she had been a great wife, I could forgive her. My counsel agreed with me that I should not extend any forgiveness to her during this time of separation negotiations.
For me, forgiveness is a personal choice. She doesnt need to know if you forgive her. To me, reaching out to tell her you 'forgive her' is pursuing.
Originally Posted By: WshIKnw
It's so depressing being there, because everything reminds me of my wife.
How can you change that? Replace photographs? Take down artwork? Buy some new 'man' stuff?
Originally Posted By: WshIKnw
I don't really want to start talking to other women yet, because I don't yet have the legal right to date. But it would be nice to find some to hang out with, whether I think I could ever marry them or not.
For love of all things holy, NO, dont start thinking about dating. Thats ludicrous. You just spent pages talking about how much you are pining for W; you need to get clear of that before you have any right bringing another woman into this.
BUT, yes, you shouldnt spend your life alone. Get out there and meet people. Try some new things. Im super introverted too, but I was able to get into a group through a meetup and that really helped me change things around. Look to go do something new: join a club for dancing, gaming, socializing, whatever. Meeting people that know you as you and not as Mrs. WshIKnw's husband is so liberating.
