Hi Laowai, I'm sorry to read about your W's comments at your recent counselling session. I understand that you wouldn't want to continue investing your time and effort in those circumstances - ie: she is unrepentant and continues to be in touch with OM.
The only thing I would say is - it doesn't need to be as black and white as I am done/not done. I think shades of grey (sorry!) in between those is worth considering. The minimum you want to do is stop with the counselling - so just doing that is an option. It sounds as though you also don't want to be in touch if she's in touch wit OM - again fair enough.
But both of these things may not mean that you are done - just that this is how things will be for now (and unless things undergo significant change on her part in which case you can see where you are at.) When we feel so upset about things, we sometimes want to jump to the biggest reaction/decision - but I think it could be an option to protect yourself (emotionally) with clear boundaries - and live your own life allowing some more time to pass....then see where you are at further down the road.
I don't think our emotional progress can really be measured in weeks, more like months or years...
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
