I know, I know.. I'm trying to very delicately balance how much of a "follower" she is by nature since not pursuing at least a tiny bit will most likely cause her to never speak to me.
This is your fear talking.
Originally Posted By: brizz
After she was busted and kicked out of the house on New Years day, the next time she was over she angrily mentioned how I hadn't even reached out to her. As if I should have been reaching out then and not her.
Do you see this 'logic'? She wants to be pursued because you arent pursuing her. But, trust me, if you had, shed have told you to go fly a kite. Try to remember that anger isnt necessarily BAD.
Originally Posted By: brizz
Case in point, that text exchange was the most productive talk we've had in 3 months. I honestly didn't expect at this point to get that level of calmness and honesty from her.
Im still not positive what you mean by 'productive'. I dont see how you are any closer to reconciling. She said she feels bad. Thats guilt. I didnt see anything about being sorry. In fact you talked about how horribly she treated you and her words were "Everyone makes mistakes".
Thats why I think you need to stop having these kinds of talks. You see them as productive, but I dont see 'progress. Just guilt.
