So proud of you! I know it hasn't been an easy journey and I know it will still continue to be difficult from time to time. I'm just so glad to see you putting yourself first.
D doesn't mean your W can't ever return and that you can't ever reconcile. At this point it just means you're old M is done so to see you accept that and see the change of tone in your post to cheesty demanding the respect she deserves and detaching is great!
Me: 35 W: 32 MR: 2y T: 3.5y SS11 BD: 11/3/16 EA: 10/26/16 PA: 11/11/16 W asks for S/D & ILYBINILWY 11/13/16 Status: I moved out 11/19/16, GAL I filed for D: 12/14/16 D-day: 3/10/17