Good job on stopping the responses. She's laid it out...so what are you going to do next?
Just keep focusing on myself. She knows how to reach me if she wants to have a rational talk.
Originally Posted By: Husky
...just one more thing to remember. I always found that when my XW was "softening/validating/etc," that she was truly feeling guilty about the hell she was putting me through. It became plainly obvious in the hours/days after we'd talk, she would then get EXTREMELY mad at me for having "made her" feel guilty...even though I wasn't doing anything of the sort.
The whole psychology of it is crazy, huh? It's like a chess match with your whole future at stake. It really did seem like she was coming out of the fog some last night and did give me some hope. I don't know if it made her guilty so she's already stepped back some or she talked to her work friend who surely put a negative spin on everything I had said. Probably some of both.
