Case in point, that text exchange was the most productive talk we've had in 3 months. I honestly didn't expect at this point to get that level of calmness and honesty from her. Am I going to be reaching out every day now and ask how her day is, how she's feeling, etc. No, not at all. But like Kaizen said, I think that seed needed to be planted and now it can germinate.
Hi Brizz,
It is hard to tell the level of honesty coming from her. Based on her most recent history, you can't believe any of what she says and only half of what she does.
Be very cautious regarding reaching out to her everyday to see how her day is and how she is feeling. This is pursuing her in a major way, which is likely to backfire on you.
Originally Posted By: KevinIn
I'm in the same situation. I want closure and she sees our marriage as a closed chapter. However, I'm DBing which means im ignoring my need for closure, applying 180s and LRT, and talking to a DB coach. That is helping more thwn my counselor.
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