WAW had an affair - hurt and confused

[Husky]

I don't post much, but I have been following your thread. My sitch went down a lot like yours and I must have had that EXACT conversation 5-6 times over the course of the first 6 months after BD. I will tell you that I also felt that "something" was moving forward because I'd finally get some validation from my XW. I will also tell you this sense of validation is extremely fleeting. Lastly, I will say that shortly after these conversations, my XW would so something that would damage our relationship even further...it was like clockwork, every...single...time. Usually took about a week.

The worst part about finally getting validation from the WAW is that it gives you hope...not that there's no reason for hope, but that there is hope in the specific conversation that you had with her which makes you think they are coming out of the fog.

I'm with everyone else here. I think that you should literally let her be the only one that reaches out...period...and do this for a couple of months.

Sorry, I don't mean to be a downer. Just be patient...