So, I was asked why I don't harbor any anger towards my WW and my response was that I didn't want to live with the anger cause why should I. Yes, from what I have read, the WAS's on here have done unspeakable things to people they once loved. I decided early on that I did not want to let my WW ruin my life anymore so I worked hard on forgiveness and let go of my anger. We can't control what they do. The only thing we can control is how we react to the things they do to us.
With that being said I think I hit an all time anger spout today. I am at the point where I have learned from a mutual friend that my WW is trying to maliciously ruin me financially. I have had my L look into our finances while we were M and the news I got from him has come at a shock. My W handled all the financial obligations, from which I have learned my lesson, and what she has done/doing still makes me sick to my stomach. This all started right after the OM's ex found out about their A and threatened to destroy my W's life. After multiple threats my W came to the conclusion that once I found out we would be getting a D anyway so she has been planning these malicious acts since then. Bank accounts were closed and multiple credit cards in my name were opened. The debt on these credit cards are substantial and she was very good at hiding the monthly statements from me. I have also learned, just today, that she literally has used one credit card to not only book a weekend out of town with the OM, but has also bought multiple lingerie items for this weekend getaway on a credit card in my name.
There may be some good news in all this. I first spoke that my W's apple account was logged into my IPad and I was able to read her text messages. I stopped "snooping" long ago, but after the lawyer informed me of my unfortunate debt that I was unaware of, I went snooping. The things I have read that she is saying to friends and family not only hurt, but has made me rediscover my anger for her. How in the world could someone grow so cold and malicious towards someone they loved and spent 16 years of their life with????? Luckily I do have these texts messages because hopefully the court will see that she has done these things on purpose to hurt me. In my town there are 2 judges that will hear our case. Through text messages I also found out that one of them just so happens to be a family friend of theirs and referred my W's current L to her. Once I informed my L about this he said we def will not be having him review our case because of a conflict of interest. So imagine if I didn't have these text messages and decided NOT to snoop. I would have gone into court, possible with a judge that is a family friend of my W's family, knowing all of this but maybe having little grounds to stand on to fight it. All marital debt in my state is split evenly so why should would have racked up all this credit card debt is beyond me? Maybe she figures that I will have to buy her out of our properties, pay her child support, give her half of my 401 and most of this debt will be wiped out, but leave me with little investments for my future?? I have no ideal, but I do know that 2 accounts were set up for our daughter's future and they are now GONE. She closed them and took the money. How.......how can someone be so cold??????? She actually stole money from her own daughters!! She was telling her friends (via text) that she is hoping our home appraises for x amount because she will be going after the equity. She literally said that she "needs" this amount to buy a home of her own. UGH! I am beyond frustrated today needed to come here to vent, so sorry. I do hope that justice will prevail and the judge will see that her actions, since last year, has only been to benefit herself in setting up a new life and forces her to pay back the money she stool and doesn't hold me accountable for this enormous debt. I have a good L and he already told me that we will definitely fight all this, but it will all boil down to whatever the judge rules on. I know Karma is a b**** so I seriously can't wait until it comes and bites her in the a** for ruining my children's and my lives.
M: 37 W: 36 T: 16 M: 11 D2: 8,3 PA: 2015 WAW: 2016 W Filed: 2017 2/07/2017 W officially dating OM2
