Thank you for taking the time to post your wife's texts. It helps everyone to see a glimpse of their confusion and to better understand how muddled their thinking is.
I find it interesting that her boyfriend is so disposable that she'd get her own apartment. Classic.
I know we're not supposed to mind read. But, her learning that you are talking to another woman must make her wonder if your daughters have met this woman and if they are bonding with her. Many of my friends, who wanted to divorce, say that even years after the divorce, it was difficult to see a stepmother figure come onto he stage. And, these are women who had secure relationships with their kids.
You do a great job of not being drawn into her drama. Sometimes I wonder if you shouldn't try saying "give me a call if you want to discuss this. It's difficult to do this via text." Like my h, I think she hides behind the screen and has all sorts of deep conversations via text.
But maybe, this would shut her down from communicating as she feels safe texting.
Thinking of you and your girls.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
