Mleigh - it's so nice to hear an update as I think of you often. You sound like you're doing so well!

I would be curious to know why exactly it bothered your h so much that these people thought you two were divorced. And if I were you, I might even ask him in a casual sort of way to better understand his line of thinking. Maybe in a "hey, how come that bothered you so much?" sort of way.

In all honesty, he does live like a divorced guy. And so does my h who lives in the SAME house as me. And obviously during hardcore replay days they lived like they'd never even been married. If any of those people saw that behavior, well, of course they would assume he was divorced.

I certainly am not condoning people gossiping. But is that what bothered him most about all this? Does he not realize that for the most part he DOES live like a divorcee?

Anyway, it's great to hear from you. I wish you continued strength and happiness.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced