I am glad your daughter is Ok.
Anyway that was an interesting exchange. You did great with your replies. Nice truth darts.

I get the impression she words stuff so that she says/insinuates stuff without having to say it. Maybe she wants you to ask the right question so that she can say more. I agree with the others who have said not to take that bait. Let her make the effort to decide what she wants to say without you asking. Also don't be drawn to talk about your gf.

I confirm my suspicion that she is falling apart but in a good way. She has help and is trying to sort herself out. I suspect that if she hasn't already she is about to realize that her void is not only due to the girls. She has realised her quick fixes fixed nothing. I suspect that includes bf, as she wondered if having her own apartment would help with girls.

It may not come but if the falling apart and rebuild process lead her to the realisation that she was wrong on all accounts including leaving you and wants to make that back up, have you put any thought into your reaction ? Are you open to considering a new beginning? She is a long way off this being feasible as there still is a lot of "poor little me" coming across in her messages

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together