Ugh, I just started my D process so I'm sure its tough! I can't imagine how I'm going to feel at the first court appearance let alone the final one...sigh.
Court will be a lot more emotional than you will think - well, for you that is. The other? Not so much. That's when the real finality of it starts to sink in...I say real finality because then it becomes all too real and the hoping one has done flies out the window. And to make it worse, sometimes they sit there with a smug look. Gah.
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Can't Skype with her kids because the date with the OM is more important. Putting the OM before their children....sounds all too familiar. Well maybe its good you keep the little birdie if they are warning you about the children. I just hope that whatever she is planning doesn't involve her trying to take them from you or in any way alienate them from you. That would be infuriating! From what I have read it has been you that stepped up to raise those children so I hope my assumptions are wrong. Regardless, those kids will know and come to thank you for being there for them when they get older. Just keep being the good dad that you are no matter what she is planning.
Parental alienation has already started, my friend. The fact that she only sees them two weekends a month has her family in an uproar...somehow they blame me even though she signed the custody agreement and its done and sealed.
I try so hard to be a good Dad for them. They are as much my rock as I am theirs. What makes me the angriest, though, is her repeatedly saying this is the best for the children. Divorce is quite common in the military and she has her friends - and the batshit crazy family - telling her that this is the best for the kids. I try so hard, my friend.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
