Originally Posted By: Zues126
But MOVING FORWARD does work. This is where you live as though you don't ever expect your WAS to turn around...but you do so WITHOUT BURNING BRIDGES.

For example, you may get your own place, you may get a S agreement to protect your finances, you may work out a parental schedule, you may start doing more things on your own, detaching, GAL, and 180s for YOU. But you don't burn bridges, you don't start dating other people, you don't drop your 180s or exhibit punishing behavior to get WAS back and show them you don't give a $hit anymore, you don't do something that would destroy the chances of R. You simply accept it probably isn't in the cards and move forward focused on you.


This is one of the best summaries of what we should do that I've seen. Im printing it out and reading it each morning.

Thanks zeus!

M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6
11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process