I think a lot will be determined in how well you drop the emotional you have tied around her.......and how well she sees you being a strong, confident, man that she has lost.
I left out a word. My typing is not as fast as my thinking. I meant to say how well you drop the emotional rope you have tied around her.
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Wanted to follow up on this. If there is OM and her family is also against him then how will she even recognize any positive changes in him? Even if she does then would she even care? Better yet, would she even care enough to want to return and work on the M? Yes, self improvement is what needs to happen and I agree that he needs to release the emotional attachments he has on her. However, not for the M, but for himself in case she doesn't find her way back.
If the H is doing a good job of dropping the rope and living his life as if he is moving forward, then she will begin to hear bits of conversation from others, or she'll run into him somewhere.
If her parents have always been a thorn in your flesh, the best gift to give yourself is stay as far away from them as possible. Your WW may have a long running affair with the OM. Her parents may initially stroke him as their way of showing favor for the new guy......but it will fade. We can't make some folks like us. If you don't know why they don't like you......then you live by your own values & standards, and keep your distance from them. Your W chose you once before, and when reality hits........she can choose you again, no matter what her parents say.
As long as you are held prisoner of a fearful mindset, you will not radiate the confidence that is so attractive to women. The WW has to have a view of her reality, and she has to experience a loss. If you can mentally let her go, if will free you to move forward in living like you want.........instead of living like someone else wants. At the moment, you don't want anything but your W. Everyone who has walked in LBS shoes that came through the fire will tell you when they started GAL for real......and made improvements for themselves, was key in finding themselves and feeling good about it. They saw they could be happy with or without their S.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
