my wife can't decide (II)

[bigybiz]

Don't reply to any messages when she is in the house. If she has something to say to you - she can walk down the hall and say it to your face.

My W tried this with me - she would not reply to my texts - so I stopped sending them. Now when she sends me a text - I typically answer with "Message received" or "Got it". If it requires thought etc. I say - I'll have an answer for you when I see you on XXday.

If I have something to say to her outside of when I see her which is rare. I phone her and I leave a message if no answer. 1/3 of the time she sends a text back i.e. No I don't need the car, 1/3 she calls back, 1/3 she does not respond - then I act in my best interest.

I see so many people on the DB site that get sucked into these text message battles i.e. hot potato. I think it was Vanilla who said that text messages create anxiety e.g. why have they not responded yet, etc. Text messages create all kinds of problems for regular people never mind those of us in a MR crisis.

Don't let the other person hide - look her square in the eye when you talk to her.