I don't think I can edit that, but I wanted to add in #1 - in no way am I absolving him of the blame in getting involved with OW. I re-read it and it reads as though I'm shifting to her, but I'm not. He is absolutely to blame for screwing things up so royally.

Me : 42
Him : 43
M : 18, T : 19
D13, D11
4/16 1st BD (ILYB)
11/16 H wants s, moves out of br
1/17 H rents house & moves out
2/17 OW (he denies PA but EA last winter)
5/17 I filed for D 7/17 D Final