I left for a while to rebuild my life. I didn't need the daily forum check-ins and even finally started dating. And then it happened...
I got the reconciliation request email! Almost 2 years to the day after D-Day, and over 6 months after she moved out. At first, I was cautious, but I agreed to talk. We laid out the ground rules and then started to "date". We went slow and we talked a lot, we got to know each other again. I hardly needed to give her my list, she had already been going online and gave me all the things she read a BS needed to have from a WS. And so we are into this for 2 months now. I am still cautious, but so much has changed. It is better now than it was that last year before the affair.
H:54 W:46 D:11 D:21 M:12 BD:1/15 In-house Separation 2/15 DB started 7/15, W sees consistency 9/15 Dropping the rope and having her leave 2/16, moves 5/16 Reconciliation 1/17 Obviously still struggling