Lots of good responses to ForGump's first thread about wearing your ring or not. I will continue wearing it until D is final, I'm wearing it right now. But I am leaning toward taking it off for this coffee meeting. Sounds weird, I guess, but I think it's probably the right move and will support how I act/react when I go in there to validate and show her I'm doing just fine.
Still looking for feedback on the other stuff in my posts above. Ty!
Haven't had a chance to really review all of your posts but this is a dumb move. Wear it or don't wear it. Don't use it to try to get a reaction out of her. This is about your personal decision and what being married and wearing a ring symbolizes to you.